Is There Really a Way to Stop Being Gay/Lesbian/Homosexual? Can You Help Who You Love? From a Christian Perspective.

A few minutes ago I watched a video by WSPictures on Youtube entitled “Love is All You Need?” and it really inspired me to blog about it. Also, if you haven’t watched it yet, go watch it! It is such a sad, but good short film. And since it’s told from an innocent child’s perspective, it might change your views on some things. Now, it didn’t change my views, but it made me realize that I really have a lot of questions–a lot of questions to which I may never know the answer .

So, if any of you have read my “About” page or some of my other posts in the OOC, you might have learned that I am a Christian. Yes, I am a Christian, which makes this issue of homosexuality even more difficult for me because although I’m a Christian, I am not ignorant to the fact that a person can’t help who they are attracted to or for whom their heart longs. I’m living proof of that as are my parents and my brothers and sisters and countless other people out there in the world. I don’t go into class or into church or into the store, look at someone, and then tell myself that I’m going to be attracted to this person. If I’m not attracted, chances are I’ll never be attracted, and I definitely can’t force that. I, and probably many other people, cannot force myself to go on a date with someone to which I’m  not at least a teensy bit attracted. Have you ever been in a relationship and you realized you didn’t love the person and probably never would but you stayed in the relationship to see if somehow you could force those feelings upon yourself? It just doesn’t work. Now, since I’ve never been attracted to someone of the same sex, I’m speaking from a heterosexual perspective, but is it really different than those from a homosexual perspective?

No. I don’t believe it is any different. If I saw a woman and was attracted to her in every sense, (emotionally, sexually, etc.) I know that it would be really difficult to nearly impossible to rid myself of those feelings because, I mean, was it really me that chose them? That leads me to questions with God. Since I believe it is almost impossible to choose who you’re attracted to, does that mean God puts that attraction into you? And if God puts that attraction into you, then why is it so wrong to be homosexual? I wish God would just stand right in front of me and tell me the answer, but the chances of that happening are slim.

So, do I still believe homosexuality is a sin? Yes, to a certain extent, since the Bible says it is. But, at the same time, I can’t help but question that, since I don’t believe you can choose who you’re attracted to (oh no! ended  a sentence with a preposition!). Sure, having sex with someone is purely choice, but when it comes to attraction, it’s not choice (at least I don’t believe it is).

Whether you’re heterosexual or homosexual, you heart chooses what it wants. If you can control that, then I think you are a very amazing person indeed, because I haven’t met one person who is able to control who it is that they love (romantically, of course).

Is there a way to stop be gay/lesbian/homosexual? Coming from a Christian who has been raised as a Christian all her life…I can’t answer that. Some of me says yes. Most of me says no. I know this doesn’t help many people, but I really do not know. I don’t know if I’ll ever find the answer to my questions, but one thing is clear to me: just because someone is different from you, that doesn’t give you the right to persecute them.

I think I’ll write a book about this. I’ve already got some great ideas. Maybe you all should look for it on the shelves a few years from now hehe.

Okay, while it doesn’t seem like I said much of anything in this blog post, (since it’s really difficult for me to put my thoughts into words since they are so confusing and there are so many of them) I just wanted to share some of my thoughts and questions about homosexuality and Christianity.

Oh! And here’s a link video. You should watch it. Either from their official YouTube channel here:

Or from their official website here:


4 thoughts on “Is There Really a Way to Stop Being Gay/Lesbian/Homosexual? Can You Help Who You Love? From a Christian Perspective.

  1. I really need someones point of view of how I’m feeling I’m a lesbain recently I kept looking at this girl I fort she fancied me back until she got her friend to message me saying I freaked her out by looking at her this has really scared me I did say sorry and I’m waiting for her forgiveness but thats not the point the point is that its scared me that much I don’t want it to happen again so I’m trying to force myself to stop looking and like girls is this the right thing to do? I don’t want to get into any more trouble for looking at girls any helpful advice should I stay a lesbain or go straight so I don’t get into deeper trouble

    • Hey! I always appreciate comments. As to your issue, I am in no way qualified to give you any advice on the subject. I’ve never struggled with my sexuality, so I’m not sure what it’s like to struggle with it. That being said, maybe you could just wait and see what happens. I’m sure you’re young, so you have plenty of time for love and relationships. Why not just wait it out and see how it goes? Perhaps you will stay attracted to girls or perhaps you will find you are attracted to guys.

  2. Though this is 4 yrs old, I thought I’d still commemt. I agree with you, I am also a Christian. I also am attracted to women, and the bible is clear. I’m not sure how to stop being attracted to women. It’s easy to not be intimate, though it gets rather lonely at times. I wish I knew how to turn off feelings that is my biggest struggle. I could care less about sex, my heart though, it is stubborn lol. Enjoyed reading your thoughts!!

    • I’m glad you enjoyed reading this! I think my thoughts have changed even further since I wrote this article, although some things stayed the same. That said, I don’t know if there’s truly anyway to “turn off” your feelings for women, just like I can’t “turn off” my feelings for men. It’s not as simple as that. If you were born that way, then you were born that way. That’s where it gets tricky, though, because of what the Bible and churches and other Christians teach. I do know that you should never have to feel ashamed for who you are, however. I totally understand about hearts being stubborn! Good luck to you and thanks for reading my article!

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