Sometimes, You Just Get Tired When People Don’t Listen.

You know, if I had a nickel for every time I told somebody something and then found out they weren’t listening, I would be a rich woman. Like many people, this happens to me a lot, and, although I never say anything, it can get very irritating when people don’t listen. Sometimes I think in my mind, “I always listen to you, why can’t you, just once, listen to me?” But, of course, I would never say that out loud because I’m a good listener, plus the person on the other side might not think it very nice if I said something like that.

Here are some of the situations I, and I’m pretty sure many other people, find themselves in:

1. I start talking in a group of people, commenting about something just said by another person, and when I get in the middle of my comment I realize that nobody is listening, and then I just fade away and stop talking.

2. I’m talking, ranting, or commenting about something while I’m either driving a car or riding in a car, and then I hear a silence after I finish and realize that the other person wasn’t listening to me at all.

3. I walk up to a person while they are on the computer or doing something else, they acknowledge that I’m there, and I start talking or asking questions and after I finish they say, “Oh sorry, what?”

4. I try to tell something to a person who is watching TV, and they don’t respond or even acknowlege I’m there because they are too immersed in the television program.

5. I try to start talking with someone about something, and they immediately interrupt me, saying “Oh! I know what you’re talking about…” and then proceed to talk about themselves, their stories, or their circumstances, and I just let them talk not even getting to say what I wanted to say.

6. Same situation as above, except this time I actually interrupt them and continue on with what I’m saying, but they do the same thing and, in the end, I lose.

I’m sure there are many other situations I find myself in with people not listening, but these are by far the most prevalent. I’ve found that the worst perpetrators of this are family. People just want to talk about themselves, I get it, I really do, because sometimes I just want to talk about myself, but if I don’t have anybody who wants to listen to what I want to say, and only cares about what they want to say,then it’s really hard not to get annoyed. I mean, I’m really not asking for much, if you don’t want to listen then at least nod your head or make throaty noises once in a while! I’m not completely blameless of those scenarios listed up there, but I try my hardest to listen to people and not partake one of those. And I’m writing this post because sometimes, I just get tired when people don’t listen.

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2 thoughts on “Sometimes, You Just Get Tired When People Don’t Listen.

  1. Wow, I can’t believe someone else actually feels the same way as me. Well, I actually do believe it because I know too well how people are too self centered nowadays.
    I agree with family being the worst. Family and the closest friends. For instance my sister…
    I have always been interested in learning about people, to understand them and to understand why they do the things they do. And along the way of learning about people, I have tried to learn to be a good listener. I hoped that if I give her my full attention maybe she would just listen for abit about the things I’d like to get off my chest. So I listen, I nod, I make eye contact, I give them an open body language, taking in everything she is saying. And then once she’s done talking, she asks me “so how are you doing?” So I’m like great, it’s my turn. I start talking… and what does she do? She picks up her phone, and goes on facebook, or messages her bf.. and she would say, keep talking yeah, I’m listening… Sometimes I find it so frustrating I want to cry. So now I’ve just learnt to keep it in. Not talk about things. I know it’s not healthy what it beats talking to someone’s forehead.
    To this day, I am still trying to find books and articles to read to understand people, so maybe I can not let it bother me so much. Which is what bought me here now. But deep down I realise no matter how much I read about it, it’s never gonna ease this tight chest I have.
    I’ve always heard that writing a journal is good? Have you tried that? I think I will start giving it a try because even just typing here, it’s kinda a little relieving already lol…
    I know this might sound silly but if you can’t get anyone to listen to you, you can always talk to me?

    Thanks for readng/listening 🙂

    • Thank you for your comment! After I wrote this post, I actually became more aware of myself and how I listened to others. I realized that I sometimes do these things, but because I wrote this, it is easier to catch myself doing it. I have tried writing a journal to get all my thoughts out, but I usually get too lazy to write everything down, so it doesn’t really work for me, but it’s different from person to person. What helps me to relieve stress and get my thoughts and feelings out is just doing something I have a talent for, like singing, piano, dancing, or writing fiction. You should try that. Also what helps me is God, because I know that even if I’m talking in my head, there is someone that is listening and someone that cares. That really helps me. Oh yeah! Talking to myself really helps too. I hope you find the solution and that my suggestions can be of some help. 🙂

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